Feature Article
During Busy Harvest, Farm Couples Should Make Time to Connect
Eileen Yager, Communications Officer, Extension & Ag Information, University of Missouri, yagere@umsystem.edu
Long hours in the field mean little time for anything
else during harvest season. Although many things can
wait until the crops are in, the relationship with a
spouse should not be among them, said a University of
Missouri Human Development Specialist.
“Effective communication can reduce stress and enhance the
relationship,” said Nina Chen, an MU Extension
Specialist in Jackson County. “Talking about your
emotions, fears and concerns can provide a feeling of
relief.”
Chen’s advice is especially appropriate this year as farmers face
skyrocketing fuel prices that will jack up costs, along
with potentially lower yields due to extreme weather
conditions this summer.
“It’s surprising the number of couples that don’t talk,” she said.
“Couples need to talk and share their dreams, emotions
and concerns. It’s so easy to have misunderstandings or
conflicts.”
While it may seem impossible to squeeze in one more thing, even just a
few minutes of talking can help minimize stress, she
said. “Evening meals are an ideal time to share and
process the day’s events.”
First thing in the morning over a cup of coffee or just before going to
bed are other times couples can share, Chen said.
Running errands together is another way for couples to
have time alone.
Chen said couples also should make a point of carving out at least one
longer period of time for themselves each week. “If the
couple can have a regular time to deal with issues, they
will be more productive,” she said. “A lot of things
become issues because couples don’t have time to talk.”
Couples that share their goals, dreams, fears and concerns have a
deeper understanding about each other and are more
likely to achieve their goals together, rather than
apart.”
Source: Nina Chen, (816) 876-2781
Last Updated 05/06/2008
 |
Site Administrator: |
|
|
|
