Let's start first with the one we know best, ourselves. As everyone who has flown on an airplane or taken a boat has been instructed, we need to put on our own oxygen mask or life preserver first before helping others. Unless we take care of ourselves, we won't be able to help anyone else for very long.

What are some of the things we need to do to show care and love of ourselves? Add your ideas to this list.

• Appreciate your body for all that it has done for you-legs that help you get wherever you need to go, arms that hug and comfort a friend, hands that offer a gentle touch, lips that smile and eyes that see the beauty in the world.
• Just as a car needs regular maintenance like oil changes to keep it running well, you need regular preventive health care visits with your physician, dentist and eye care professional. This team of health care providers can catch many problems at an early stage when treatment is easier, more successful and often less expensive.
• Get enough sleep. Many of us are over-committed, over-worked and over-scheduled and forget that we need rest. This is a true physiological need, not a luxury. Lack of sleep makes us cranky and short tempered, and causes automobile and other accidents. Sleep deprivation puts stress on the immune system making us more susceptible to viral infections like colds and the flu.
• Wear comfortable, attractive clothes that fit well and look good on you. Shop at stores that carry the sizes and styles of clothes you enjoy wearing. Choose colors that are flattering for your hair and skin coloring rather than for their 'slimming' qualities.
• Stand tall-be proud! You'll feel more energetic, look more confident and suffer less from backaches.
• Eat well for pleasure and health. Eat consciously and attentively. Savor the sight, aroma and flavor of food by engaging all your senses as you eat. Respect your body by eating when hungry and stopping when full.
• Put movement into every day. Stretch those muscles, work out the kinks that come with stress and tension. You'll be more creative and productive, and feel energized.
• Take time for yourself every day, even if it's only 15 minutes. Try doing nothing, just sit with your eyes closed and relax. Or, talk to a friend, read the funnies, paint your toenails-do whatever feels good to you.