Are You Spoiling Your Child?
Nina Chen, Ph.D., Human Development Specialist, Jackson County University of Missouri Extension
Is it necessary to buy popular or famous brands of
dresses, shoes, or toys for your children? Though some
brands may cost several hundred dollars for just one
item, parents may feel they have to buy expensive items
for their children. Parents may think that children need
to wear famous brands to be able to compete with their
peers or feel they are in the same group as their peers.
If you decide to buy an expensive and popular brand of
dress or shoes for your children, you might want to
think about what kind of values your children will
Although children need to have special or nicer
clothes for some occasions, it is not necessary to buy
expensive ones. There are many ways to have special and
nice clothes for your children. For instance, sew
clothing for your children; make some changes to old
clothes to fit your child's needs and styles; use
clothing from older siblings or others. These can be
very special and meaningful for your children. Children
also need casual and comfortable dress to wear for daily
play and activities.
Regarding shoes, there is no need to spend a lot of
money on buying a popular brand because children grow so
fast. Children need the right size and comfortable shoes
to wear. Buying popular or famous brands of items for
your kids all the time is likely to make your kids
You may have a question about how your children can compete with their peers because most parents buy popular brands for their children, or your child asked for a famous brand of shoes because his friends wear that brand. This can be a good moment to teach your children about values, decision making, choices, money management, saving, etc. There is a Chinese saying: "People compete with people only makes everyone angry and frustrated and the competition is never ending." That means, if you use materialism as a way to teach your kids to compete with their peers, eventually your children might have a hard time learning good values, making wise choices, and managing money effectively. Therefore, don't spoil your kids. Be a good role model and teach them good values and skills to become a productive citizen.
Last Updated 05/05/2009