Relationships Quick Answers
What are some things I can do to help my infant/toddler adjust to the divorce?
Give your child a lot of reassurance before and after transitions to or from the other parent's home. Give your child enough time to say good-bye to you and to warm up to the other parent. Send your child's favorite toys or blanket with the child when he or she goes to the other parent's house.
Having consistent routines (having generally the same
mealtimes, naptimes, bathtimes, and bedtimes each day)
is also very important for young children, because it
helps them to feel secure. The world is a confusing
place for infants and toddlers. Consistent daily
routines help them know what is going to happen next.
Discuss major changes, such as changing naptime,
changing childcare arrangements, or beginning toilet
training with your child's other parent. Both parents
don't have to do things exactly the same way, but
keeping routines as similar as possible between homes is
helpful for young children.
Source: Kim Leon, Ph.D., Former Human Development and Family Studies, College of Human Environmental Sciences, University of Missouri-Columbia
Last update: Wednesday, August 20, 2008