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What are some tips for handling joint custody following divorce in domestic violence situations?


If you have continued contact with your children's other parent as a result of the custody arrangement or visitation, consider the following ways to ensure the safety and well-being of you and your children:
 

  • Recognize continued abuse and control attempts. If abuse continues, document it. Keep written records of all interactions with the abuser, including exact times and dates children are picked up and returned, dates and amounts of child support, and any violations of court orders of protection
  • Set boundaries. Decide who has access to the house and how each person can enter the house. For example, who is allowed to enter with a key, and who needs to knock to enter the house? Decide what topics you will talk to each other about and what methods you will use to communicate (in person, by telephone, by e-mail, leaving notes or messages for each other, etc.).
  • Prioritize safety. Exchange children in a neutral public place and consider having a third party present. Inform teachers and other care providers exactly who does and does not have access to your children.
  • Foster positive adjustment for you and children. You or your children may continue to experience symptoms of stress after the divorce. Encourage your child to communicate his or her feelings. Seek support and help for yourself and your children. Professional counseling can be very beneficial to adults and children who have experienced or witnessed domestic violence.

 


 

Ann Huey, Graduate Student, Human Development and Family Studies, University of Missouri-Columbia

Jennifer Hardesty, Postdoctoral Fellow, School of Nursing, Johns Hopkins University

Kim Leon, Former State Extension Specialist, Human Development and Family Studies, University of Missouri-Columbia

 

 

 

 

 

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