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My grandmother tells me I should just bite my child if he bites me. Should I do this?

Never hit or bite a child for biting. This communicates that biting is an acceptable way to work out problems, even if it hurts others.


If a biting incident occurs, stay calm and respond quickly. Give the child who was been bitten your attention first, tend to the wound, and reassure him or her. Then turn your attention to your child, who did the biting. Calmly and firmly tell your child that he or she is not allowed to bite and that biting hurts. “Emma is crying because her hand hurts where you bit her.”

As both children are likely be upset by the incident, give each a comforting hug and then redirect them to a quiet activity so that both have time to calm down. Wait a few minutes and then talk with your child about what caused his or her frustration and how he might express his feelings differently in the future. A hug will reassure a young child you still love him while biting is not acceptable. 

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Source: ParentLink, 4-H/Youth Development, University of Missouri-Columbia




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