My 2½ year-old daughter occasionally
hits a playmate when she comes to visit and my daughter
doesn't always get her way. How can I discourage this kind
of aggressive behavior?
Reassure the friend first. Then calmly and firmly tell your daughter that it is okay to be upset, but hitting is not allowed because it hurts others. Give both children a hug and then redirect them to a quiet activity so they can calm down. Wait a few minutes, then talk with your daughter about what caused her frustration and ways to express her feelings differently in the future. A hug will reassure her you still love her even though her behavior may not have been acceptable.
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Last update: Wednesday, May 13, 2009