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It’s 20 degrees outside, and my five-year old tells me she wants to wear her sundress to preschool when I ask her what she wants to wear. What do I do?

It is hard to say no to your child. One way to be able to say yes often is to only give choices that are acceptable. A key phrase to remember as a parent is “freedom within limits.” Instead of asking your child, “What do you want to wear today?” you might ask “Do you want to wear your green sweater or your purple shirt to preschool today?” You are allowing the child to choose what to wear, but you define the range of permissible choices. Using this strategy consistently throughout childhood for topics from clothing and food choices to deciding which extracurricular activities to pursue can make both you and your child happy.


Source: Deborah B. Smith, Ph.D., Sociology, Family Studies Program, University of Missouri-Kansas City.




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