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I am a divorced parent with two children under the age of two. They live with me and spend time with their other parent every other week. How can I make their separation from me easier?
 

Separation anxiety (crying, getting upset, throwing tantrums when separated from a parent) is common in infants and toddlers. There are several things divorced parents can do to make separations easier for their children:
 

  • Give your child enough time to say good-bye and to get comfortable with the other parent.
     
  • Reassure your child that you will return to pick her up.
     
  • Acknowledge your child's feelings, but also be positive about the time your child will spend with the other parent. For example, "I know it is sad to say good-bye, but you will have fun playing with daddy."
     
  • Prepare your child for the separation, for example, "In a little while you are going to see mommy."
     
  • Allow your child to take along comforting objects, such as a favorite blanket, stuffed animal, or a picture of you.
     
  • If possible, come to an agreement with the other parent that your child can always telephone either parent.
     
  • Keeping routines as similar as possible at both homes helps children adjust to transitions between homes.

 

 

 

Source: ParentLink, 4-H/Youth Development, University of Missouri-Columbia

 

 

 

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